I think it very
STUPID to go into a relationship NOT knowing what you really want, and I mean
really want. What are the things beyond what you can see? I mean looks can only
get you so far. What about the conversation that later turns into communication
if the relationship evolves. Respect? You definitely want that other person to
respect you, but the question always is…. are YOU giving them something to
respect?! Moral? Family Life? Goals? Many different factors go into determining
what you really want out of a relationship, whether it be short or long term.
I've asked a lot of
questions and both sexes as their wholes, say the same things.
Men want?
Men want a fun and
exciting women. Sexually more so than anything. They want that sense of being
on the edge. Men are easy. Really easy. Its just that so many women think too
dang much and always drive them away with the "naggin". THERE IS NOT ALWAYS
SOMETHING WRONG. And that's one of the MAIN things men want out of their women,
for them to just be there and not constantly over analyze everything (Men,
there are women like that out here).There are certain things that a man will
discuss with a woman, if that level of communication and trust has been
established. Men DO NOT want to discuss every single detail of their day. They
just don't. Once the day is over for them, that’s just it. IT'S OVER. He just
wants to -----> SH*T, EAT, F**K, & SLEEP, in that order. Men want consistent, frequent, passionate
sex. Yes passionate, they like for their women to get into it, let them know
that its good, (BUT NEVER LIE LADIES). They want to always be attracted to you.
Even though they know nothing about what it takes to stay looking all good and
sh*t, but men get turned off by many different things that a woman does, and he
is ready to FLEE. So that LOOK GOOD factor is kind of a must. Men want their
women to give them private time to be left alone, to spend on hobbies and
sports, and to spend time with other men (MAN TIME is what I call it). Men do
not like clingy, need to be with you all the time kind of women. Men just want
relaxed women that know how to back off when necessary.
Women want?
A woman is a special
being who yearns to be loved and appreciated and are not as difficult as men
perceive them to be. Women wants to be loved and told that they are beautiful
just the way they are. They want to be appreciated and noticed for the things that
they do. "When she goes out to get that hair done (THAT YOU WANTED), she
wants you to say, Hey baby! Lookin good!"
They want honesty and sincerity, they need you to be there for them when
they are going through a rough time. Women want MEN. Not boys. Men that stay
and face challenges. Men that pray. Men that know what it takes to please a
women, both physically and emotionally. Women want men who HEARS them and not
just listens to what they say "Big difference there men!". They want
to be handled with delicacy "We are God's beauties," taken seriously,
understood and never understated. Women want security. They want to know that
NO MATTER WHAT, you are there. They want
real men who are not afraid to be themselves, AT ALL TIMES, no matter who's
around. Women want men that do not try and change them, but accepts them for
who they are, and what they aspire to be. They want to be loved.
Both men and women
have it made up in their minds that they want the perfect companion, but no
such thing exists. It is a KNOWN fact that no one is perfect, there is always
going to be something that we lack, because people are truly never satisfied.
We reach for perfection only to never find it. Instead of seeing the true
beauty in someones flaws, we rather conform our thoughts based what society
tells us what perfection is. To me, perfection is our flaws, it’s the things
that make us different from that next. My flaw is not your flaw and that’s what
makes us all perfect. Don't go seeking
that perfect someone, they do not exist, just seek that one that is perfect for
you. There is someone out there for everyone, but only if we are willing to see
those perfect imperfections.
With Love,
Always Opinionated.
